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BarbieH
08-30-2005, 08:52 AM
I wanted to put this out here for everyone who thinks their bird is an incurable biter that they will never be able to touch. :) Sorry for the long post here. For those of you who know Gracie's background with us, please feel free to skip to the end. ;)

Some of you know Gracie. She was our first lovebird, the one who started it all. We adopted her as a stray, and she was pretty darn wild (although she retained her step-up training). My introduction to her outside the cage came with her attached to my finger, and she broke the skin. It was blood at first sight.

For a long time, we searched for ways to reduce the biting outside the cage. This was more than just biting when we tried to hold or carry her. She would chase hands, fingers, and armpits whenever, wherever. We tried to distract her with food, but that only seemed to make her more territorial. She started shredding from the moment she entered the home. It was like being in a new home put her into territorial overdrive, and we didn't even know what was going on in her little brain.

We used water bottles, the earthquake method, a clicker, and other things to try to distract or discourage her. Probably the two most effective methods were reaction deprivation (I scooped her up onto a dowel and held her at arm's length, not saying or doing anything) and limited time out of the cage (out of cage for short periods of time, so that she would be returned before biting). In short, we deprogrammed the bite response.

We also got George for her. :) Giving her a mate gave her a lovebird to bully around and snuggle up to. She became less frustrated with us humans because she was able to interact with George.

We have been able to give her beak pets through the bars of the cage for some time. It's like she only trusted fingers when there was a cage separating her from them.

Lately, though, when she comes out with me by herself (very important time for both her and me), she tucks her head back and pretends to sleep. I blow gently on the back of her neck, which she loves. While I'm blowing, I softly lift my hand and stroke her neck feathers in the direction I'm blowing.

This is huge progress in Gracie-land. I used to try to do this before, but all it would take was for me to move my hand and she would be awake, keeping an eye on those fingers. Eventually she will still start turning her head while I'm petting her feathers, and that's my cue to stop. If she wanted to, she could snap her head around and nail my fingers.

Anyway, it's been a little over three years, or maybe four, since we adopted Gracie. The message here is, do not give up hope. Just love your bird for who it is, and know when the time is right to push your luck. ;)

Best wishes,

bellarains
08-30-2005, 10:45 AM
Barb,

I'm so happy you and Ms. Gracie have reached a higher plane of your relationship. I'm sure seeing you with the other lovies has probably given her the courage to let you love her as she knows you always wanted to do, and well..... It seems she likes it. You are not evil afterall, not entirely ;)

Gracie is so beautiful, and has such personality, I know it's been a long time coming, and I'm very happy for the both of you :)

BarbieH
08-30-2005, 11:21 AM
Thanks Lori. :)

I often wonder what Gracie was like when she was younger. Was she like Sammy, very outgoing but occassionally nippy, then punished for it? Except, Sam never breaks the skin. Gracie is also much calmer than Sam is. She always was, except when she was on a rampage or sitting on eggs ... none of that hyperactivity that seems to be the norm for so many lovies. She must have been a snuggler.

Even if Gracie had never let me touch her willingly, I would have been fine with it. It's just one more proof of trust, and that's what is important to me. It's symbolic more than anything else at this point, and I'm very grateful that she has been willing to give me a little more leeway. :):):)

You're right; I think the fact that she has seen Didjit work with my hands has been a big thing in their favor. She always sees Sammy on my hands, too. That's his favorite place.

We had an incident last Saturday when my aunt and a cousin were over. The birds were on the back porch and one cousin's husband couldn't keep his fingers away from the cages. Well, Gracie gave him what for, made his finger bleed, and he still wouldn't leave her alone! >: (I found out about this later or his *** would have been toast.)

Well, after everyone went home and I found out this ******* had been teasing Grace, I brought her out and shared some food with her (not mouth to mouth, of course), and we had special time. I didn't try touching her feathers for a couple of days after that, but I have since then and she still allows it.

Good Gracie! Yay Gracie!! Good girl!!! :happy:

linda040899
08-30-2005, 12:47 PM
Barb,
It's amazing how well birds can differentiate between what makes them comfortable and what causes alarm. The hands that teased Gracie were not attached to you and she recognizes that. Birds are just incredible....

mjm8321
08-30-2005, 01:19 PM
Barb,

I'm glad to hear of the progress. It's a huge step for you both and I know your pain...literally. :lol

Tell Gracie to go for the cousin's husband's eyes next time.

BarbieH
08-30-2005, 01:49 PM
:lol I would have been tempted to bring her out of the cage and see how well he liked her. ;) When I got back there, she gave me a look that said, "Get this a--hole away from my cage!!"

Janie
08-30-2005, 04:55 PM
Barb, thanks for sharing Miss Gracie's latest progress! :) They are a work in progress, aren't they? After two years I STILL see changes in Oliver as he becomes more trusting with me.

Would have been just great if Gracie could have hooked that tender part on cousins nose! :lol

Angelwing
08-30-2005, 07:09 PM
Oh, this is very exciting. I'm glad that Gracie is trusting you more. I know how happy you must be.