bites and RUNS and FLIES away Never around Help please

[underworlddon]

hi guys .. i have a love bird.. right now for the past few days its jus laying egg but this is somthing differnt since the first day i bought it Not even once she actually stayed near me.. whenver i would put my fingure she would Bite itt HARDD or Fly away and if she is outside the cage and i would go to grab her she woudl run in the cage.. not even once i was able to rest it on my fingure she would always run away.. anyone know Why its like that.. is there anyways she would come to me and not fly or anything my cousin has same love bird but his is so CHilling comes and rest on his shoulder and never afraid..

[kimsbirds]

Don't expect any successful training while your lovebird is laying or has eggs that she's sitting on. Her only goal is her eggs.
Plainly put, your bird does not know you, and therefore does not trust you. Whether or not she was handraised as a baby would help, but either way, you have a long slow road of TRUST ahead of you. Read through the many many threads in our community, there are tons on how to gain your birds' trust, the amount of patience you need. There is no way to predict how long this all might take. You need to approach this VERY SLOWLY.
It all depends on how much time and effort you put into your bird. Don't grab it inside it's cage, don't chase it around or force it to do anything. Anytime you make her do something she doesn't want to do only makes her fear you even more. Let her set the pace. She needs to learn that she can TRUST you. Spend lots of time talking with her in her cage. Whistle or make noises when she makes them. Have a consistent routine each day ie: feeding, watering, cage cleaning. You need to be very very patient.

[underworlddon]

o alright cool thanks for the info but ju o tmake sure.. its been a long time like 6 months now since ihave the bird and she is still like not trusted in me.. u think there is still changes for it to change? were she wil trust me and stuff?

[kimsbirds]

Yep, I think there's still a chance you'll become close. You can try setting aside a specific time each day where it's just the two of you. No TV, no friends etc...just you sitting beside her cage, talking etc. These things can take years, but hopefully with patience and consistency, you wont' have to wait that long.
Good Luck
K

[Janie]

I agree with Kim! I think change is almost always possible when you go about it the right way. If you had been working daily with this lovie for the last six months, I'm sure you would have made progress. The older bird that I adopted did come to me tame but it still took several months and a lot of daily interaction, before he learned to trust me. I added two more last summer and while they were hand fed and fairly tame, they did not automatically like me. I spent at least 15 to 30 minutes four times a day, interacting with them while they were in quarantine in a bedroom. After about 3 or 4 weeks, they were all over me! :D

I talk to my birds a lot and when I'm in another room, I constantly give them contact calls and always answer their calls. If you shower them with love and attention and are very patient, you can tame your bird to some degree. She might never be a velcro birdie but you can enjoy a much better relationship than what you have now. I did read in a lovebird book that you can expect to spend 6 months taming a new bird and that is with daily and consistent interaction. I know you won't be able to start this while she's on eggs but you can start by talking to her often and then work on bigger steps when she's over the egg laying/sitting.

[LauraO]

Kim and janie have given you some great advise. I just wanted to say again, that grabbing at any lovebird or chasing it harms your relationship and destroys trust. Like others said, building trust takes time, but it can be done with PATIENCE and CONSISTANCY. Oh, and no eggs:roll: .

Good Luck and please give your lovie a chance. You and her will be together for many years so there is plenty of time to build a relationship.